I see there is strong support for not leaving out the dementia years. Daddy did just that. Additionally, Christopher takes the time to address members of the family, a beautiful departure from the standard eulogy format that makes Juanita's eulogy incredibly heartwarming and unique. Hello, everyone. It was a great chance for us to know and see each other in different ways, learn what my Dad did at work, have similar co-workers, etc. RyLee and Lora, Her free time was spent supporting us, cheerleading for us, driving us to various activities, picking us up, hosting sleepovers, paying for our (many) mistakes, and being known to all as "the best Mom". Dementia is an To my brother-in-law Matthew, you helped to clean up messes and did a lot of the heavy lifting with RyLee to relocate her lifetime of things to the new house and storage. He'd sneak out in the middle of the night when we were younger to take us to midnight premiers of our favorite movies -- much to Mom's dismay. If there was a party, you'd often find him on the balcony, in the backyard, or in a corner somewhere, people watching and smiling kindly at anyone who wandered near him. While I've chosen to keep part of this eulogy private, I share this in hopes of shedding light on magnitude of the legacy we all leave behind. If I were to say that my sister was the most important person in my life, it might be a bit of a life. When I reflect on my moms life and think about the values which defined her, I think of her generosity, the way in which she inspired or motivated you, her tenacious drive, the endless pride she had in her children and family, and her resilience. No one deserves that fate. I will love, and be loved, and the world will be a richer, better place for my having been here. It means so much to our family to have this support system in place after the sudden passing of our beloved son, [Name]. This is the eulogy I gave at his funeral. I will not swoon at the sight of blood, but will swoon over a mariachi band (or really any live music). Just five weeks after my mother's passing, my 90-year-old grandfather fell and broke one of the vertebrae in his neck. I have never in my 50 years of managing imagined running into someone like [Name] and I am blessed to have known them. And lets remember to thank our God for giving us life to participate in this wonderful train ride. [She/He] will be greatly missed by all who had the pleasure of knowing [him/her]. While not all of these memories are ""positive"", they are the ones that have stuck with me the most. [Name] was a rare individual -- someone that, in today's day and age, is becoming increasingly more rare. When my mother died on May 27 from Alzheimer's disease, I wrote a post titled " Shades of death: When you lose a loved one to Alzheimer's disease .". Other popular story topics include major accomplishments, life events, the impact the person had on others, childhood memories and years, stories about traveling, marriage, family, children, or other important stories. And also -- even more so -- because it's what Mom would have wanted me to do. x,LMevKG|9Tp$Rwz*vkoQViyv]\]z{.eOB/|v]|~| ut)~= "y~VSw/bw0-8_5~ She loved everything about life, even the downsides -- she embraced it all. Mothers Day is a difficult time for my grandma and myself, since losing my mom to early onset Alzheimers disease four years ago. My high school friends even fondly remember his tutoring us in math. Find ways to help those who cannot help themselves. He loved nothing more than being on stage, basking in the spotlight, and entertaining his audience. Thank you all for joining me, please tell your parents how much they mean to you and please do kindness, wherever you can. They both left a void in our hearts. To my dad, David, I met [Name] [number] years ago at [description of meeting location]. He met and married his first wife in Brisbane, Australia. Caring for someone with dementia can lead to feelings of guilt, sadness, confusion or anger. <> 4. Whether this was through community service, time spent volunteering, or simply being a listening ear to those who needed one, her time spent on this planet was time spent caring for others. [], [] That night, a great peace washed over me. He pushed us to attend college, he pushed us to stay in school, and he pushed us to cherish those in our family -- something he never had. Little did our moms know -- they'd given us more than friendship when they became friends. Advertisement. Like our dad, she never missed an opportunity to tell my sisters and I how much she loved us, how proud she was of us, how happy we made her, how lucky she was to be our mom. You were unusually alert. Her heart though was full of love, she turned those feelings of hurt into good. Dementia was part of your aunt's life journey. Today it is reality. I will continue to write this column every week, because it's important to put this information in front of people, and to keep it in front of them. She was a strong and independent woman, who always put others first. Rest in peace, my love. You were an amazing son, brother, and friend and you will be deeply missed. I will continue to pattern my life after yours, and in times when I need help or a little advice, I will think back to all the good, long talks we had. Overall, the Relish Radio is a worthwhile device for any dementia sufferer. In 1997, and again in 2004, she was diagnosed with Aplastic Anemia, an extremely rare disease in which the bone marrow quits producing red blood cells, white blood cells, and platelets. If you purchase a product or register for an account through one of the links on our site, we may receive compensation. My mother touched countless lives with her volunteer work. If you prefer to remove your comment, you can delete it. The Dodd family grave in the back of the church evokes pioneer history. He loved to bike biked to work, biked with friends, biked long distance rides of 100 miles, and biked as a family. He described her as "The first sense of relief I felt on this earth." It has been a difficult summer for my grandparents. My mom would also sing various songs to the guinea pig, especially at treat time. He was not only a brilliant man; he was a man who dedicated his life to helping others. You were an amazing woman and an even better mother. Rest in peace, dear friend. I think he knew he had lived the good life, the way life was meant to be lived. Some tools that sufferers and caregivers can use to manage dementia include: External memory aids: systems or devices, whether electronic or not, that help make up for decreased memory. As his family, we watched Dad decline with dementia for 25 years. He served on submarines in World War II, becoming a chief pharmacist mate; and at the time, was the youngest Chief Petty Officer in the Navy. When she managed to burn chicken each and every time, you wouldn't hear a peep from me. Sister? In a flash, he had me at Rutherford Hospital with Stewart Mooring doing an arteriogram. From the very beginning, [Name] and I were inseparable. Thank you to [Name's parents] for raising such an incredible human being. To her sister Helen, Yet busy as she was keeping that many kids fed, caught up on their homework and to basketball practice on time, she still managed to devote countless hours to her church and a host of service organizations. I thank you all for spending time with us here today in honor of [her/him] and the person [she/he] was. I will dance with enthusiasm. We had just gone to [location] the previous year, so this was a nice change. If youre interested in a lighter eulogy, consider sharing a funny story. I know I will be fine. Its surreal. Baroness Betty Boothroyd, first female Speaker of the House of Commons and excellent orator has died at 93. Loved by everyone around [him/her], [name] was the star of the show from the very beginning. "In 2007, I used the term 'treating prodromal Alzheimer's disease,' and no one paid attention to me," Isaacson said in a recent article in Psychology Today. She was a shining star that burned out too soon. Unexpressed love: that was a foreign concept to Mom. A eulogy is essentially a way of saying farewell to a person who has passed away by expressing and sharing thoughts, feelings and experiences that honour and respect the deceased. I ask those gathered here today, in her memory, to help me keep her presence alive. Your video calls lighted your Grandma Juanitas day and gave her a bright smile. Maybe that was her purpose here, to have a positive impact on all of us by leaving us better than she found us. She guided us through years and years and years of hardship, difficulty, joy, and achievement. Her [smile/laugh/voice] would light up a room and bring joy to those around her. Her husband, Robbie, is constantly finding small notes that Joie left behind, just little reminders that she still cares for him and is supporting him, despite this complication we call existence. y:b_,#EO.heO3b (+CB$]E3*s?gWSM)J That being said, I aim to honor her life and legacy by attempting to make others feel just as loved, held, and cared for as she made them feel. My father grew up poor, he lost his own father at the young age of 8 and had a mother who could be described as absent (at best). That wasn't my intent. Sorry, we had some trouble updating your comment. And mom, yes.we knew we were loved. She wrote that parents will make many mistakes. She will never be forgotten. My dad meant everything to me, and more. Two years ago this week, I stood in the pulpit at St. Joseph Catholic Church in Battle Creek, Mich., and delivered those words. And I totally agree he loved to learn and knew a lot about everything. Sample Eulogy for Father. We bonded over music sharing two of our top three favorite bands. She dealt with her illness by pushing it aside and pursuing her academic and career goals, leading many of us to forget that she was ever sick at all. I remember he would come home upset every day he had to let just one of them go. She was a wife, a sister-in-law, an aunt, and a grandma. It just isnt fair what happened to Shannon. % When she ranted about work, I wanted to defend her. Both of our families had decided to only have one child, so Joie and I filled the void that every only-child experiences. To say my dad meant the world to me is an understatement. As his daughter, how can I stand up here and even begin to tell all he did, or all he was. Image of Royston Harold Taylor, several months before he died. (You can read about that here). And please, most of all, be kind to one another. [Name] was a remarkable young man, who touched the lives of all those who knew him. This column is committed to brain health, prevention of dementia and successful aging. Despite my Dads quiet demeanor he definitely had had a wild and adventurous side . Some would say our relationship was too close and my father used to warn me against "relying" on her too much, since he was trying to protect me from this exact day. You were always my pride and joy and I will miss you more than words can say. One evening there must have been 12 raccoons eating the seeds and other goodies mom fed to the critters. Life was hard, but it was also worth it for her. He always asks how my father is. As the time of your death draws near, we pray, dear Mother, that you have the unshakeable comfort and confidence that God Himself has said, "I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you." You are not alone. Maybe the original by Judy Garland would be more apropos for seniors. He truly served children and his fellowman with all his heart, with a glad spirit, and with laughter in his soul. I think she felt alone, like she didnt have anyone. You know, Dad never was a church going man. And I was right. Music, painting, and dancing also played significant roles in my sisters healing. Visit Shannon's memorial website to learn more about her life. The other 80 percent of preventing Alzheimer's is well within our control, based on how well we eat, how often we exercise, how much stimulation we give our mind and how socially active and spiritually replenished we keep ourselves. It can even alert you when they've left (or entered) a certain area, as well as having an SOS button which connects a call to designated contacts in an emergency. Most people with dementia, and older people in general, benefit from better lighting in their home - it can help to avoid confusion and reduce the risk of falls. Our family would like to thank you for being here today to share in the celebration of a life well lived. He was someone who hated the idea of small talk, celebrated people who worked hard (but knew when to take a break), and would be more than happy if no one talked to him for months, leaving him to read through his favorite detective novels. <>/ExtGState<>/ProcSet[/PDF/Text/ImageB/ImageC/ImageI] >>/MediaBox[ 0 0 595.32 841.92] /Contents 4 0 R/Group<>/Tabs/S/StructParents 0>> Even with a donor, chances of survival are still not 100%. In Juliann's eulogy, Josef does an excellent job at delivering many of the details you'd find in a eulogy in a loving, descriptive, and beautiful way. Her joyful exuberance turned out to be [], [] Ireally need to watch my mom suffer with early onset Alzheimers disease for the bulk of my twenties? My mother would have approved of that. I know you are in a better place now, but I still wish you were here with us. She was stubborn, confident, and sure of what she wanted -- much like myself. You were always driven to win and I know that you would have gone far in your chosen field, no matter what that ended up being. He told me later that he told her we would all be okay. We were having a great time and I was using my iPod to text my brother Thor to tell him to come to Xcalak. I write this column every week, because right now, information is really all we have to protect ourselves against Alzheimer's disease. endobj When we lost [name], we lived only 20 minutes from each other and would see each other nearly every other day. They are us', Address to Parliament following Christchurch massacre - 2019, Dolores Ibrruri: "No Pasarn!, They shall not pass! Hara Estroff Marano, the author of that article, goes on to explain the paradox of "cutting-edge intervention" against Alzheimer's. Now that she has passed, and I think about the man I strive to be for my own familyfor my wife, Sarah, and our daughter, Tessa, who will grow up without having truly known her AmaI find in my moms legacy a clarion call, a beacon guiding my way, a pledge I must continually renew: I will be kind to friends and strangers alikeespecially the less fortunate, the marginalized, and the forgotten among us. They wish they could be here today. And thats been evident as well in the flood of messages weve received since Mom passed, which have come not just from close friends and family, as youd expect, but from those who worked with her briefly decades ago, those who met her only recentlyincluding members of the Breakers community in Edgewater, where our parents have lived the past couple of yearsfrom friends (and friends of friends) of my sisters and mine who may have met her only once at one of our weddings years ago. I had no idea the next time I saw you, you would be unconscious on your deathbed. You were her source of strength and inspiration to keep fighting when her life was turned upside down going from living alone to living with you, your two big sisters and brother, your mom and dad, and the dogs. They returned to the States, where Marie was born. She was a close friend, a parishioner, a nurse and a teacher. If you're looking for examples of real eulogies that have been written and read by folks on Ever Loved, here are some outstanding examples. Id like to leave you with one of my favorite quotes that I feel sums up [Name] perfectly: [quote]. Our mother was the foundation of our family and without her, its difficult to know what to do or what comes next. Our [grandma/grandpa], [Name] was such a classic [grandma/grandpa] that its almost too difficult to believe. Little did he know, this quote would go on to be the foundation of my father's life. In this memorial speech, there are plenty references to memories, passions, hobbies, and delights that Richard took part in during his time. Very much so. Unfortunately there were no easy answers or quick fixes, and I underestimated her ability to cope with her illness. But, I want you to do me a favor. But people dont quite know how to mourn someone whos still technically alive. He took a turn for the worse last Monday, after falling the previous Friday, and was struggling to breath and swallow and in a state of delirium and agitation for several days. When she was babysitting Marty when he was 3, he helped her pick berries and make jam. A man of few words, and even fewer faults -- he was the stoic figure in my life, the foundation that stayed true no matter what was thrown at him, and the reason I became the woman I am today. And he did at least a sudoku a day. Thank you all for being here today and I know that [Name] wouldve been in tears just seeing all of you who loved and cared for [her/him] show up for [her/him] today. [Name], sweet girl, you are so loved and so very missed. I will be selfless and unfailingly loyal. She always supported me in everything that I did, and she was my biggest cheerleader. I cant imagine hearing this as an 18 year-old. Barbara's life, visit her memorial website, Juliann's life, visit her memorial website, Richard's life, visit his memorial website, Do Not Sell or Share My Personal Information. To say the loss we've suffered is great is an understatement -- there is no way to describe the hole that is left by her passing. Thank you all for joining me and for allowing [Name] to have a space in your heart and in your life. He was an adventurous spirit, always eager to try new things and see new places. I didnt want to resemble a short, middle-aged womanbeautiful though she wasand rued the fact that I didnt inherit a chiseled jawline or muscular physique instead. Death Is Nothing At All Instructions We Remember Him (We Remember Her) Parable On Immortality Let Me Go Remember Our memories build a special bridge There is no night without a dawning You've just walked on ahead of me If I should die before the rest of you When I am dead, my dearest, At every turning of my life We had so many happy years together and I am grateful for every moment we shared. So, this is Roys day. Truth be told, for as long as I have memories of her, they are made up of sacrifice and offering, one after another. It is in great part through her example and pruning that I am the person I am today. But looking after your health and making time for yourself can help you feel better and more able to cope with your caring role. Going out of his way to stand at a bus stop just to make sure I had some consistency in my life, a friendly face at the end of the day, and a safe way to get back home was the kind of person he continued to be throughout my life (and throughout the lives of his own family). And most importantly to Roy, he never lost the love of his family. Was it the time that we went to Lake Minetonka and passed out on the shores after sharing a box full of wine? My mother was the ever-present cheerleader and moral compass of our family. To start, the main parts to include in a standard eulogy are as follows: A brief introduction usually looks like Thank you all for being here or Thank you all for coming. Simply put, his brain was patiently shutting down. My Dad was always around and involved when we were younger. Use of and/or registration on any portion of this site constitutes acceptance of our User Agreement, Privacy Policy and Cookie Statement, and Your Privacy Choices and Rights (each updated 1/26/2023). And, to all of grandmas family and friends with whom she spoke or saw, there have been so many cooks in the kitchen, but she was always grateful for each of you. She was the pillar of our family, a pillar of her community, and would take each and every opportunity available to her to make those around her feel supported and seen. Please take a few minutes to appreciate what this planet has to offer. We hosted a memorial service at Western Hills Church of Christ in Austin, Texas. Go out today and try your best to emulate everything she did, and more. My brother was the best of us and this world is less bright now that he has passed. When I'd wake up in the morning to a hot cup of coffee and a brief rant on the political state of the world? Today were gathered in memory of [Name], my [brother/sister] and biggest supporter. My sister was the kind of person who somehow found the stragglers, the outcasts, the nerds, the misfits, and the people who didn't feel like they had a community -- and gave them one. Today we come to honor and remember the life of Barbara Kleinert. My earlier memories may be fuzzy and even failing me, but the truth isnt: my grandma was always there for me, no matter what. One of my most cherished memories with [Name] was the time we [description]. In the whole of the UK, the number of people with dementia is estimated at 850,000. We were born only a few days apart, spent our first years of life held by each other's moms and had almost no chance in not becoming great friends. I will honor [his/her] time on Earth and [his/her] contributions to our society by [describe how you'll honor their life]. I am so saddened by the loss of [Name]. 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